I really suck at blogging. Big time suck. There are so many things that I have wanted to blog about in the last year. SO.MANY.THINGS. I moved. I went to the World Summit. I went to Haiti. The list goes on. But so does life. And I simply have a real hard time at peeling myself away from experiencing all of the exciting things in life in order to document life. But I desire to try. So here goes. Just a small portion of said life.
BACKGROUND BEGIN:
In January I moved to the East side of Charlotte. To most of you this probably doesn’t mean much, but for me, it was a big step of faith, and something I felt sure that the Lord was leading me to do! I had been volunteering and building relationships in East Charlotte for years, but each night I would return to my neighborhood that looked far different than the one I had just left. This didn’t exactly bother me, until last year. As many of you know, I have been longing to get to Africa for years now! Last year, I contacted a ministry in Africa to see if I could come visit. The man who answered the phone told me that their ministry was having some legal issues with land there in Uganda, so they weren’t able to have visitors currently, but before we got off the phone, he asked me if I had ever read the book, “When Helping Hurts.” I had not read the book, but I had just heard my hero Katie Davis talking about it in a video, so I knew it was something that I needed to get my hands on ASAP. I immediately downloaded the audio book and began listening. I know that “life-changing” gets used a little too liberally these days, but truly, the book was life-changing. The only other book I had ever read at that point that had altered my life in a similar way was “Kisses from Katie,” written by none other than, Katie Davis. After reading “When Helping Hurts,” my view on “helping” changed DRASTICALLY. The premise of the book is basically that often times our efforts at helping do more harm than good. It was a beautifully challenging, offensive, yet much needed read, and my life has honestly never been the same since. After reading “When Helping Hurts” I listened to the book, “Toxic Charity.” Similar premise– stop causing harm with “charity” and instead start building organic, authentic relationships that will restore instead of steal dignity.
These two books are basically what moved me to East Charlotte. I no longer wanted to drive in and out of an area of town to “do ministry” with the people. Instead, I wanted to simply build authentic relationships with my neighbors.
So in January I moved to East Charlotte– the most international (and therefore beautiful) area of the city. I love it here. So very much.
A few months ago I was running at the park that is literally right across the street from my home (it’s WONDERFUL) and I met some men from Ethiopia. They invited me to play tennis with them, and as we finished up our game, I couldn’t help but to be in awe of how the Lord was fulfilling the desires of my heart! I have since ran and played tennis (and soccer) with these friends multiple times! It doesn’t get much more “organic” than that. 😉
At the beginning of the summer my church announced that we would be doing community outreach over the summer. I cringed at first, absolutely terrified that we would do the very things that I had just learned NOT to do in the books I had read. I was relieved when my group decided to do a community survey to ask the community what they would like, instead of just determining what they needed on our own. My group went to the park across the street from my home to conduct the survey, and wouldn’t you know that I ran into my friends from Ethiopia while there! I got to ask them our survey questions, and I couldn’t believe the needs they expressed! One friend said that there was need for more ESL classes! The ministry that my church shares a space with is called Project 658, and I knew for sure that Project 658 taught ESL classes– so how could there be a need? I did a little investigating, and come to find out, there is a rather long waiting list for these ESL classes, and yes, there is an even greater need than I realized! Fortunately, everyone in my group agreed that instead of coming up with a new community outreach project, what was best for the community was for us to come along side of Project 658 and help them to do what they were already doing so well!
We had no idea what to expect, and I’ll be the first to admit I was skeptical that anyone would even show up, but on August 2, my small group met at church to offer our first ESL tutoring class. We had so many students show up that I started out working with 3 all on my own.
It was beautiful. I couldn’t wait for the next week.
BACKGROUND END.
Tonight was my 4th week tutoring ESL here in my neighborhood! On my second week tutoring, I had the great privilege of tutoring a brother and sister (Patrick and Anna) from the Democratic Republic of Congo! They knew very, very little English, which made tutoring quite difficult (considering I know ZERO Swahili) but we had a wonderful, joyful time together. At the end of our time together, I found out they were going to be walking home, so I offered to drive them home. As I arrived at their home, I stopped the car to let them out, but they motioned for me to park the car and come inside. Nearly an hour later and there I was laughing hysterically with 6 new friends (Patrick, Anna, Julianne, Juliet, Mother and Father) from the Congo. We couldn’t hold the slightest conversation, but we nailed the joy and laughter part! They welcomed me into their home like I was family, despite the fact that we had absolutely no way of communicating with one another. As the night was coming to an end, through many failed attempts at communication, I told them that I would pick them up the next week to take them to tutoring, and so I did!
Tonight when I got there to pick up Anna and Patrick, Patrick greeted me with the warmest greeting, proudly calling his name for me– “teacher!” As we were preparing to leave, their younger sisters asked if they could come too, so all 5 of us piled in my Ford Focus and we headed to “school.” Tonight was my favorite night so far– the Lord provided just the right volunteer to work with the younger girls, and He also provided enough volunteers so that Patrick and Anna were able to have one-on-one time! Anna and I worked together, and she did so well! As did Patrick and Julianne and Juliet! When I arrived at their home to drop them off, I once again stopped the car to let them out, this time remaining in the car, but waiting for their parents to open the door. I had been craving Taco’s from the local Taco spot, so I quickly called to place my order, and waited for the kids to go inside so that I could go pick up my al pastor! Next thing I know, the kids were standing outside their door, with their father, waving for me to come inside. Something told me I wasn’t going to be picking up those tacos after all. 😉 A very large cup of juice and a huge plate of rice and beans later– and much more than my belly was full! God continued to provide, this time by bringing a friend of theirs over, who spoke Swahili AND English!! (READ: A translator! :)) James was wonderful! He took no issue with translating the many questions that I had come up with over the last 3 weeks! I spent another hour in the living room of this family from the Congo, and the Father confirmed what I was already feeling when he had James translate to tell me: I was family.
It’s impossible to NOT be in awe, when I take a step back to look at all the Lord has done. The way that he has truly given me (as in, placed within me AND fulfilled) the desires of my heart. My life is so much richer, so much fuller, so much more beautiful when it is spent in community.
My new friends are refugees from the Congo. They have been here for less than 4 months. Anna, Patrick, Julianne, and Juliette will start school next week. They will attend an American school for the first time in their lives. They are barely able to complete a sentence in English. It is SO HARD for them to live here without knowing English. They desperately want to learn. They are desperately trying. It is an honor to play a tiny role in helping them along the way.
After James told me once more that our friends had only been here for 4 months, and that they were refugees from the Congo, the words that immediately came out of my mouth were the truest words I could have spoken in that moment:
I’m so glad they are here.
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DARING TO HOPE:
When I got home tonight, I was already on cloud 9 (understandably so, right??). I couldn’t anticipate the night getting any better, but then I saw a package at the door, and I knew immediately what was inside that little brown package: gold.
Not real gold, of course. But something worth far more than gold.
Katie Davis’s new book– “Daring to Hope.”
As I mentioned above, Katie Davis is truly one of my heroes. I want to give you a background on who she is, but if I tried to do so in this blog post, I would be up for another hour and I still wouldn’t have done justice to God’s story through her. Please, just look her up.
The point is, she wrote a book, and it changed my life. And the life of many others. And the reality is, tonight would not have happened if I did not read “Kisses from Katie” 2 years ago. This blog post would not have been written, because I wouldn’t have met Patrick and Anna, because I wouldn’t have moved to East Charlotte, because I wouldn’t have read When Helping Hurts.
Dramatic, I know. But true.
So true that I am sitting here WAY past my bedtime, writing this blog post. Because I want you to know all that the Lord has done with a tiny little seed that he planted two years ago. And as I prepare to read “Daring to Hope”, and anticipate all that the Lord will do through it, I want to invite you to join me on the journey. Your path may look very different than mine; it likely does! Fantastic! Let’s partner together! I would love to hear your story. Where you were before, where God has you today, and what your dreams are for the future! I would love to share with one another as we read this book together, having a friend to laugh and cry with as we go! (Trust me! There will be plenty of both!) Community is a beautiful thing, and I would love to build one together!
Daring to Hope officially releases on October 3, but you can pre-order your copy here: Daring to Hope
After it releases in October, I will be forming a book club! My vision is to have a community of friends to journey along side of one another as we read her book and experience all that the Lord wants us to experience through it! Trust me when I say, this is NOT a book that you will be able to keep to yourself! You will be itching to share with others, and to process out-loud, which is exactly what I desire for the book club to be! If you are interested in journeying along side of us, please do not hesitate to let me know! Either comment below or send me an email, and I will be so very excited to welcome you into our community!!
And on that note, I think I’ll let you stop reading now, and I will go to sleep. 🙂
“The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is giving your gift away.”